These apply to both men and women and while I agree with much of the article I think a few signs are up for debate as those traits can exist in both the narcissist and those who are not narcissists. They can exist in both narcissists and regular people alike. So I think it’s important to look for a number of different signs as opposed to just one or two signs to truly determine if the person is exhibiting narcissistic behavior or not.
Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. While everyone may show occasional narcissistic behavior, true narcissists frequently disregard others or their feelings. They also do not understand the effect that their behavior has on other people.
It’s important to note that narcissism is a trait, but it can also be a part of a larger personality disorder. Not every narcissist has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), as narcissism is a spectrum. People who are at the highest end of the spectrum are those that are classified as NPD, but others, still with narcissistic traits, may fall on the lower end of the narcissistic spectrum.
The cause of narcissism isn’t known. But it can be linked to your:
- Environment. Your parents may have given you either too much adoration or too much criticism that didn’t match your actual experiences and achievements.
- Genetics. Narcissism may be linked to your inherited characteristics, including certain personality traits.
- Neurobiology. This is the connection between your brain, behavior, and thinking.
People who show signs of narcissism can often be very charming and charismatic. They often don’t show negative behavior right away, especially in relationships. People who show narcissism often like to surround themselves with people who feed into their ego. They build relationships to reinforce their ideas about themselves, even if these relationships are superficial.
The Basics: Narcissism
The word narcissist is thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean?
Types of Narcissism
There are two types of narcissism that narcissistic behavior can fall under. The two types can have common traits but come from different childhood experiences. The two types also dictate the different ways people will behave in relationships.
People with this behavior were most likely treated as if they were superior or above others during childhood. These expectations can follow them as they become adults. They tend to brag and be elitist.
Those with grandiose narcissism are aggressive, dominant, and exaggerate their importance. They are very self-confident and aren’t sensitive.
This behavior is usually the result of childhood neglect or abuse. People with this behavior are much more sensitive. Narcissistic behavior helps to protect them against feeling inadequate. Even though they go between feeling inferior and superior to others, they feel offended or anxious when others don’t treat them as if they’re special.
Signs of Narcissism
Narcissism is still being studied and explored, since many narcissists and people with narcissistic personality disorder don’t seek treatment. But there are some common traits of people with narcissistic behavior that you may be able to spot.
Sense of Entitlement
A common sign of people with narcissism is the belief that they are superior to others and deserve special treatment. They believe that others should be obedient to their wishes and that the rules don’t apply to them.
Another common trait of narcissism is manipulative or controlling behavior. A narcissist will at first try to please you and impress you, but eventually, their own needs will always come first.
When relating to other people, narcissists will try to keep people at a certain distance in order to maintain control. They may even exploit others to gain something for themselves.
Need for Admiration
One of the most common signs of a narcissist is a constant need for praise or admiration. People with this behavior need to feel validation from others and often brag or exaggerate their accomplishments for recognition. They also like to feel appreciated to boost their ego.
Lack of Empathy
Lack of empathy is another sign of narcissism. This means that the narcissist is unwilling or unable to empathize with the needs, wants, or feelings of other people. This also makes it difficult for them to take responsibility for their own behavior.
People with narcissistic behavior already see themselves as superior to others, so they may become rude or abusive when they don’t receive the treatment they think they deserve. While they hold themselves superior, they may speak or act rudely toward those that they deem are inferior.
Other signs include:
- A sense of self-importance, exaggerating their achievements and talents.
- A preoccupation with fantasies of success, power, or brilliance.
- A belief that they’re more special or unique than others and should only associate with other high-status people.
- Envy of others or the belief that others are envious of them.
- Insisting they have the best of everything .
- Feeling they deserve privileges and special treatment.